Between the economy, our family and personal lives, our jobs ? finding peace in a stressful world is difficult for all of us. But I think it?s especially difficult for women because of their gender, their poverty and there ethnicity. Women face many problems and struggle to fulfill their many responsibilities
Most of us have been raised to be caregivers and nurturers. In some respects, that is a wonderful part of who we are. But if we tend to carry those traits to the extreme, if we tend to forget our own needs or don?t take time for ourselves, then we can burn out. In the long run, we?re not helping anyone.
Although I am single with no children, I had to learn the hard way to undo many patterns from childhood. As the oldest of nine, it was always my job to take care of others and so it was often difficult to put ?me? first. Eventually I learned that caring for myself was the most important, loving act I could do for myself and those close to me.
Stress will always be part of life. For me, it?s constant writing deadlines and other personal responsibilities. And at times, I?m sinking in the quicksand of stress before I know it. That?s when I have to remind myself, first, to be gentle with myself. Adding a layer of judgment to already-existing stress just doesn?t work! Then I do something for ?me.? I take a walk. I listen to music. I call a good friend. Once my batteries are recharged, I can better deal with what?s in front of me.
So, I?d be interested in hearing more about your care giving responsibilities or other daily stressors. Do you find that we as women are more prone to putting our needs last? Do we, as women, try to do it all? And what things are you doing to find peace in today?s stressful world?
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